*Encouragement is the best medicine to give someone. If I were to pick any gift to have in helping others, that would be the one*

Thursday, April 21, 2011

Encouragement is the Best Medicine for Aspergers Kids

Chaz dad cheering him on
I know that there are a lot of doctors out there. Really good ones.  Doctors are important.  But what happens when we go home?  What then?

Recently I found out that a single mother to an Autistic son just committed suicide.  I wish I could rewind and find this woman.  Did you have a friend that would back her up?  A family member that would say "You can do it. Just take a day at a time?" Did she have a support group where she could relate with other moms?  My heart goes out to this boy.  I can't imagine the confusion and set back for him.

Chaz has come a long way. I say it a hundred times on here.  I'm convinced that the biggest help for him has been encouragement amongst other things.  I know there is treatment, therapy, good teachers.  I remember the days when his school day was done.  He would run from the bus and into my arms just sobbing.  He'd say "It's so hard mom.  Just so hard."  I would cry with him and hold him for as long as he needed.  I give him some milk and cookies. Whether it's through activities with the family, sports, games at home, the family are their biggest cheerleaders.  They need us to say "You can it" and "It's gonna be okay, I promise".  "Tomorrow is a new day".  So many times he'd be quick to give up and walk away.  If it was too much, he'd back away.  I know that encouragement, pushing bits at a time, and trying new territories helps him grow.  Some days I know when he's at his limit and I give him that space.

I love this saying and I want to truly live by it.  I'd love to share it with you:

*Encouragement is the best medicine to give someone. If I were to pick any gift to have in helping others, that would be the one*


To this day I don't make him do homework after school.  These days are long for any kid but add that to an Aspergers kid who is just overwhelmed at times.  Since taking away homework, which I've fought for, I've seen a difference in him.  He needs him down time.  He's at school dealing with enough as it is and being gone for 9 hours a day.  The last thing I'm gonna do is make him sit at a table some more and work

Remember that although doctors, therapist, teachers, school aids are good.... Encouragement is the best medicine and it won't cost you a dime.

2 comments:

Blessed Mom ~ said...

You writing is fabulous!

I wanted to ask you a question? We recently did the testing for Aspergers (waiting for results is so hard!) Can you tell me, at that young age they aren't reading alot to be able to really learn one subject well, like when they are older. What did Aspergers look like at 5? My son is 6, I am pretty convinced, as are his DRs. I was curious what a younger version of an Aspergers kiddo looked like. I know a couple teens, and it's quite different due to the ability to learn, you know what I mean?

Thanks for indulging me!
Denel

Virginia (Jenny) said...

Hi, and thanks for writing me on here!

Well, from what I can remember, Chaz was just easily overwhelmed, very emotional, and extremely aggressive. He didn't know how to express how he was feeling so he usually did through physical means. At 6 Chaz was lucky enough to get a teacher trained in teacher Aspergers kids. Boy, what a difference she made! She gave him a physical schedule in the classroom. He had a cushion to sit on. His school desk was put smack dab up to hers so he was not next to other students and up close to the board. I used to think Chaz wasn't listening to me but I didn't realize that they process things better through pictures. Otherwise, it took me saying something several times for him to finally process it and respond. I hope this helps! :)

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