|Chaz dad cheering him on|
Recently I found out that a single mother to an Autistic son just committed suicide. I wish I could rewind and find this woman. Did you have a friend that would back her up? A family member that would say "You can do it. Just take a day at a time?" Did she have a support group where she could relate with other moms? My heart goes out to this boy. I can't imagine the confusion and set back for him.
Chaz has come a long way. I say it a hundred times on here. I'm convinced that the biggest help for him has been encouragement amongst other things. I know there is treatment, therapy, good teachers. I remember the days when his school day was done. He would run from the bus and into my arms just sobbing. He'd say "It's so hard mom. Just so hard." I would cry with him and hold him for as long as he needed. I give him some milk and cookies. Whether it's through activities with the family, sports, games at home, the family are their biggest cheerleaders. They need us to say "You can it" and "It's gonna be okay, I promise". "Tomorrow is a new day". So many times he'd be quick to give up and walk away. If it was too much, he'd back away. I know that encouragement, pushing bits at a time, and trying new territories helps him grow. Some days I know when he's at his limit and I give him that space.
I love this saying and I want to truly live by it. I'd love to share it with you:
To this day I don't make him do homework after school. These days are long for any kid but add that to an Aspergers kid who is just overwhelmed at times. Since taking away homework, which I've fought for, I've seen a difference in him. He needs him down time. He's at school dealing with enough as it is and being gone for 9 hours a day. The last thing I'm gonna do is make him sit at a table some more and work
Remember that although doctors, therapist, teachers, school aids are good.... Encouragement is the best medicine and it won't cost you a dime.