|Chaz (on the left)& his friend Dexter (right)|
My response? "Chaz, you may have Aspergers but it doesn't make it impossible to treat people right. It may be harder for you at times, but not impossible. Please go give Ryan a hug and apologize." So he did. I also asked him to take Ryan's chores for the night to show Ryan he truly is sorry and also to take care of things for him since he is sick. Instead of putting Chaz in the corner or in his room (which he loves anyway), I needed to teach to care about not only someone's feelings, but to show it with his actions.
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I've had to do this over and over and over since he was about 3 but I'll keep teaching him this until he moves out on his own. I've really seen Chaz grow in this area. When Chaz was little he would hurt a kid and not even blink an eye. It was incredibly embarrassing and frustrating to explain to people. What was I to do? Shrug my shoulders and just say "Oh well, he is Aspergers?" OR walk Chaz through these experiences and teach him to say sorry with his words and then by his body language? If I can use those words. Body Language. Teaching his body and his actions to line up with his words I think are incredibly important.