It might be the most damning thing a mother can utter: "I've never liked my child."
But in a column in the current issue of Redbook magazine, a woman, writing under the assumed name of Jennifer Rabiner, says she was "basically repelled by my own child."
A mother of two girls, Rabiner, 41, continued to keep her identity hidden in an interview with "Today."
"I thought that she would be vivacious and smart and loving and make intense eye contact," she tells the show of her first daughter, called "Sophie" in the magazine. "That was just not what happened."
Rabiner tells "Today" Sophie was a difficult baby.
"She slept very poorly. She ate very poorly. She did not make eye contact," she tells the show. "She did not meet the milestones that all the books that I read indicated that she should be making at the various ages."
Not every baby develops at the same rate, but Rabiner tells "Today" she doesn't think her expectations were too high.
"I don't think it's too high an expectation to expect your child to meet your milestones -- her developmental milestones," she tells the show. "It's not too high an expectation to expect her to sleep, to expect her to eat, to expect her to interact." (Full article HERE)
I'm not sure what to think about this article. I mean, I understand the frustration. A kid not meeting milestones, not sleeping well, causing me a lot more work than I ever thought parenting required.
Chaz did not potty train till 4 years old, didn't look me in the eye, didn't sleep well and still doesn't, had tummy issues, major eczema, etc.
However, I loved him like crazy and he was still bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh. He's my boy. He's still hard work for me 10 years later but I never favored any of my other kids over him. Could it have been a pride issue? I know moms tend to compare their kids to others and love to boast milestones. That can be hard and I got moms harassing me about Chaz too. I've had to learn that each kid is different and some even wildly different. I guess I worry that some day that little girl will read this article about what her mom said. What will she think?