|Chaz 11 years old|
Sometimes I don't mind talking about it but other times (like now) I have a hard time with it. It's not because I'm ashamed or because I am in denial. Sometimes I get sad because I want the best for him in life and it kills me that I can't just fix everything for him.
|My baby Chaz|
|Chaz (left) playing with his brother 12 months younger|
|You can see the scar where Chaz was stitched up|
|Chaz 8 years old|
I've made mistakes along the way with trying to stumble along different paths. Do I put him in a self contained classroom? NO. I discovered that he copies behavior and since the rest of the class was pretty wild, cussed, and threw tables and chairs, Chaz would also do these things. After a year of that mess I found a different school and wonder of all wonders I found an angel of a teacher. She just happened to have trained to work with Aspergers kids in New York for 3 years. NO WAY! She taught regular first grade and said it was no problem whatsoever to teach Chaz in her classroom. She taught me everything she could about Aspergers and how to help Chaz. She was an angel teacher and I wish I could go back and give her a big hug for everything she did. She took one of the times of my life and made it feel like it was gonna be okay. She gave me the confidence I needed as a parent to help him. Chaz no longer was rolling on the floor but doing very well. He was given a seat in the front-left. He was still sitting with the kids but much closer to the teacher's desk. He was given a visual schedule and 5 minutes warnings before each task was to be done. He was given an assistant to sit with him during math and language arts hour to help him focus. Chaz was given more breaks and was even allowed his own snack time. Since his legs were more sensitive than usual the teacher bought a cushion for his chair he had to sit in every day. This lady UNDERSTOOD Chaz. I will always be so grateful to her. Unfortunately when kids advance in grades they change teachers. It pretty much went downhill from there trying to find teachers who could work with Chaz. I think most of the problem is just ignorance. If teachers don't understand Aspergers then they aren't going to know what works for them. I communicated as best I could but often was just treated like my son was naughty and he just needed to be punished.
|Chaz and I 2009|
|Chaz's best friend Dexter also has Aspergers|
|Our family at the Science Center 2011 (Chaz top left)|
One thing for sure is that I love Chaz with all my heart. He's my firstborn and my son. Chaz has taught me more about unconditional love, PATIENCE, forgiveness, and tolerance like no other. I can't imagine missing out on a kid like him. :)