After I was done I went with Chaz, the boy, and his mom to the basketball court. I like to observe other Aspergers kids to see how they are similar. It was obvious his obsession was sports. The whole time we were there that is what he wanted to talk about and do. He never deviated. It helped me to see that I need to be careful about how much I get frustrated at Chaz's obsession with games. He likes to play them AND talk about them a lot. I don't let him play all day but he will talk all the time about it whether or not you are listening. I would get soooo frustrated sometimes but try not to show it. Watching this boy talk so much about sports made me realize that I can't change Chaz. I can encourage Chaz, but what's wrong with him wanting to talk about what he loves? Nothing. Sure, it's excessive at times but that's how he is and I shouldn't make him feel bad about it.
My life in the Aspergers lane. Chaz, my 10 year old was diagnosed with Aspergers when he was 5 years old. It explained a lot but I have so much more to learn to help my son. Seeking answers and documenting my journey here. Be the sunshine for your child when they come home with dark clouds hanging over them. Be the rainbow that brings hope by speaking up for them. "Weeping may last through the night, but joy comes with the morning." Psalm 30:5
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Wednesday, August 8, 2012
Aspergers Obsessions: Is That All You Want to Talk about?
The other day I took Chaz to the gym with me since he is now old enough to work out. He got to get a new membership card that states he can go anywhere in the gym by himself. Well, when we got there he didn't want me to leave his side since he had no one to talk to or play with. I really wanted to go straight upstairs to the gym. He looked over and saw his friend that he met the last time we came. I was excited and showed Chaz so we went over to talk. Turns out, this boy also has Aspergers Syndrome! No wonder why they got along well together. Chaz has a best friend who has Aspergers Syndrome and they get along fantastic. He was okay with me leaving to work out since he could now go swimming with his friend. While I worked out upstairs, Chaz and his friend swam. The picture is the view of the indoor pool I see while working out.
After I was done I went with Chaz, the boy, and his mom to the basketball court. I like to observe other Aspergers kids to see how they are similar. It was obvious his obsession was sports. The whole time we were there that is what he wanted to talk about and do. He never deviated. It helped me to see that I need to be careful about how much I get frustrated at Chaz's obsession with games. He likes to play them AND talk about them a lot. I don't let him play all day but he will talk all the time about it whether or not you are listening. I would get soooo frustrated sometimes but try not to show it. Watching this boy talk so much about sports made me realize that I can't change Chaz. I can encourage Chaz, but what's wrong with him wanting to talk about what he loves? Nothing. Sure, it's excessive at times but that's how he is and I shouldn't make him feel bad about it.
Chaz is such a good boy and I think I was just looking at that issue wrong. He is happy talking about video games. He does want to play basketball and is joining a league next month. I'm hoping this time the coach worries more about teaching the kids how to play well rather than only caring about winning. Chaz's last coach would bench the same kids so he could use the ones that would win the game.
After I was done I went with Chaz, the boy, and his mom to the basketball court. I like to observe other Aspergers kids to see how they are similar. It was obvious his obsession was sports. The whole time we were there that is what he wanted to talk about and do. He never deviated. It helped me to see that I need to be careful about how much I get frustrated at Chaz's obsession with games. He likes to play them AND talk about them a lot. I don't let him play all day but he will talk all the time about it whether or not you are listening. I would get soooo frustrated sometimes but try not to show it. Watching this boy talk so much about sports made me realize that I can't change Chaz. I can encourage Chaz, but what's wrong with him wanting to talk about what he loves? Nothing. Sure, it's excessive at times but that's how he is and I shouldn't make him feel bad about it.
My oldest son has aspergers. sometimes life feels so challenging and overwhelming. He's five and the oldest of my four children. sometimes i really feel like he's driving ALL of us CRAZY!
ReplyDeleteI always love to read what you have to write about Chaz and how you are dealing with everything. It's so helpful!
What a great blog! I am so glad you were able to look at this from a new perspective and see your son's interest in games as a fun thing rather than negative. I am constantly having to change my view point and remember that I love my unique qualities!
ReplyDeleteWow! Excellent post.The aspergers info you gave in this post really helps the people suffering from aspergers.
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